ONE. Give people more than they expect and do it cheerfully.
TWO. Marry a man/woman you love to talk to. As you get older, their conversational skills will be as important as any other.
THREE.. Don't believe all you hear, spend all you have or sleep all you want.
FOUR. When you say, "I love you," mean it.
FIVE. When you say, "I'm sorry," look the person in the eye.
SIX. Be engaged at least six months before you get married.
SEVEN. Believe in love at first sight.
EIGHT. Never laugh at anyone's dream. People who don't have dreams don't have much.
NINE. Love deeply and passionately. You might get hurt but it's the only way to live life completely.
TEN. In disagreements, fight fairly. No name calling.
ELEVEN. Don't judge people by their relatives.
TWELVE. Talk slowly but think quickly.
THIRTEEN. When someone asks you a question you don't want to answer, smile and ask, "Why do you want to know?"
FOURTEEN. Remember that great love and great achievements involve great risk.
FIFTEEN. Say "bless you" when you hear someone sneeze.
SIXTEEN. When you lose, don't lose the lesson.
SEVENTEEN. Remember the three R's: Respect for self; Respect for others; and responsibility for all your actions.
EIGHTEEN. Don't let a little dispute injure a great friendship.
NINETEEN. When you realize you've made a mistake, take immediate steps to correct it.
TWENTY. Smile when picking up the phone. The caller will hear it in your voice.
TWENTY-ONE. Spend some time alone.
Now, here's the FUN part!
Réussir un couple est un art qui obéit à des règles simples et évidentes .
1. Il nous faut savoir être seul avant d'être en couple.
2. Si vous êtes en couple, ne demandez pas à l'autre de changer... commencez par changer !
3. L'amour n'est pas la lune de miel. L'amour, c'est savoir aimer quand le couple est en crise...
A true friend is someone who reaches for your hand and touches your heart.
Wednesday, March 11, 2009
DON’T BE A MARRIED ILLITERATE
As I sad down and plan to get Married I vividly remember a number of novels I read some years back and thought of writing this out to my wife to be and the public whom might not be able to read the same novel before and after they are married, so here comes some ideal to help both married and on married men and women.
My inspiration comes from DR. KATHARINE BEMENT DAVIS; general secretary of the bureau of social hygiene, whom once induced a thousand married women to reply very frankly to a set of intimate questions. The result was shocking –an incredibly shocking comment upon the sexual unhappiness of the average American/African adult. So what about you in the world as a whole? According to Dr. Popenoe, failure in married is usually due to four causes, Listed below:
1. Sexual maladjustment.
2. Different of opinion as to the way of spending leisure time.
3. Financial difficulties
4. Mental, Physical, or Emotional abnormalities.
This question keeps puzzling my mind and it goes thus: “Is it true that sex is admittedly the most important subject in life?” It is admittedly the thing which causes the most shipwreck in the happiness of men and women by Dr. Popenoe.
Some rules to make your home life happier
1. Don’t nag.
2. Don’t try to make your partner over.
3. Don’t critical.
4. Give honest appreciation.
5. Pay little attentions.
6. Be courteous.
7. Read a good book on the sexual side of marriage.
Some questionnaires drew from the book “why marriages go wrong”. Give yourself ten points for each question you can answer in the affirmative.
QUESTIONS FOR WIVES
1. Do you give your husband complete freedom in his business affairs, and do you refrain from criticizing his associates, his choices of secretary, or the hours he keeps?....
2. Do you try you best to make you home interesting and attractive?...
3. Do you vary the household menu so that he never quite knows what to expect when he sit down to the table?….
4. Do you have an intelligent grasp of your husband’s business so you can discuss with him helpfully?....
5. Can you meet financial reverses bravely, cheerfully, without criticizing your husband for his mistake or comparing him unfavorably with more successful men/….
6. Do you make a special effort to get along amiably with his mother or other relatives?....
7. Do you dress with an eye for your husband’s likes and dislikes in color and style?.....
8. Do you compromise little differences of opinion in the interest of harmony?...
9. Do you make an effort to learn games your husband likes, so you can share his leisure hours?......
10. Do you keep track of the day’s news, the new books, and new ideal, so you hold your husband’s intellectual\l interest?.......
QUESTIONS FOR HUSBANDS
1. Do you still “court” your wife with an occasional gift of flowers, with remembrances of her birthday and wedding anniversary, or with some unexpected attention, some unlooked-for tenderness?.................
2. Are you careful never to criticize her before others?...............
3. Do you give her money to spend entirely as she chooses, about t5hew household expenses?......
4. Do you make an effort to understand her varying feminine moods and help her through periods of fatigue, nerves, and irritability?...............
5. Do you share at least half of your recreation hours with your wife?........
6. Do you take a tactfully refrain from comparing your wife’s cooking or housekeeping with that of your mother or of Terence’s wife, except to her advantage?.......
7. Do you take a definite interest in her intellectual life, her club and societies, the books she reads, her views on civic problems?.....
8. Can you let her dance and receive friendly attentions from other men without making jealous remarks?.......
9. Do you keep alert for opportunities to praise her and express your admiration for her?....
10. Do you thank her for the little jobs she dose for you, such as sewing on a button, sending your cloth to the dry-cleaners?...
Some books to reads over for a better family life at home in other to plan your marriage life to be a success:
1. MARRIED AND SEX HARMONY by Dr. Oliver M Butterfield
2. THE SEXUAL SIDE OF MARRIAGE by M. J. Exrer
3. MARRIED LOVE by Marie C. Stopes
4. SEX IN MARRIED by Ernest R. and Gladys H. Grooves
5. A MARRIED MANUAL by Dr. Hannah and Abraham Stone
6. THE MARRIED WOMAN by Robert A. Ross, M.D and Gladys H. Grooves
7. THE TECHNIQUE IN MARRIED by Isabel Hutton
Do have a wonderful time with all of this put together for a better life at home with your wife or husband.
My inspiration comes from DR. KATHARINE BEMENT DAVIS; general secretary of the bureau of social hygiene, whom once induced a thousand married women to reply very frankly to a set of intimate questions. The result was shocking –an incredibly shocking comment upon the sexual unhappiness of the average American/African adult. So what about you in the world as a whole? According to Dr. Popenoe, failure in married is usually due to four causes, Listed below:
1. Sexual maladjustment.
2. Different of opinion as to the way of spending leisure time.
3. Financial difficulties
4. Mental, Physical, or Emotional abnormalities.
This question keeps puzzling my mind and it goes thus: “Is it true that sex is admittedly the most important subject in life?” It is admittedly the thing which causes the most shipwreck in the happiness of men and women by Dr. Popenoe.
Some rules to make your home life happier
1. Don’t nag.
2. Don’t try to make your partner over.
3. Don’t critical.
4. Give honest appreciation.
5. Pay little attentions.
6. Be courteous.
7. Read a good book on the sexual side of marriage.
Some questionnaires drew from the book “why marriages go wrong”. Give yourself ten points for each question you can answer in the affirmative.
QUESTIONS FOR WIVES
1. Do you give your husband complete freedom in his business affairs, and do you refrain from criticizing his associates, his choices of secretary, or the hours he keeps?....
2. Do you try you best to make you home interesting and attractive?...
3. Do you vary the household menu so that he never quite knows what to expect when he sit down to the table?….
4. Do you have an intelligent grasp of your husband’s business so you can discuss with him helpfully?....
5. Can you meet financial reverses bravely, cheerfully, without criticizing your husband for his mistake or comparing him unfavorably with more successful men/….
6. Do you make a special effort to get along amiably with his mother or other relatives?....
7. Do you dress with an eye for your husband’s likes and dislikes in color and style?.....
8. Do you compromise little differences of opinion in the interest of harmony?...
9. Do you make an effort to learn games your husband likes, so you can share his leisure hours?......
10. Do you keep track of the day’s news, the new books, and new ideal, so you hold your husband’s intellectual\l interest?.......
QUESTIONS FOR HUSBANDS
1. Do you still “court” your wife with an occasional gift of flowers, with remembrances of her birthday and wedding anniversary, or with some unexpected attention, some unlooked-for tenderness?.................
2. Are you careful never to criticize her before others?...............
3. Do you give her money to spend entirely as she chooses, about t5hew household expenses?......
4. Do you make an effort to understand her varying feminine moods and help her through periods of fatigue, nerves, and irritability?...............
5. Do you share at least half of your recreation hours with your wife?........
6. Do you take a tactfully refrain from comparing your wife’s cooking or housekeeping with that of your mother or of Terence’s wife, except to her advantage?.......
7. Do you take a definite interest in her intellectual life, her club and societies, the books she reads, her views on civic problems?.....
8. Can you let her dance and receive friendly attentions from other men without making jealous remarks?.......
9. Do you keep alert for opportunities to praise her and express your admiration for her?....
10. Do you thank her for the little jobs she dose for you, such as sewing on a button, sending your cloth to the dry-cleaners?...
Some books to reads over for a better family life at home in other to plan your marriage life to be a success:
1. MARRIED AND SEX HARMONY by Dr. Oliver M Butterfield
2. THE SEXUAL SIDE OF MARRIAGE by M. J. Exrer
3. MARRIED LOVE by Marie C. Stopes
4. SEX IN MARRIED by Ernest R. and Gladys H. Grooves
5. A MARRIED MANUAL by Dr. Hannah and Abraham Stone
6. THE MARRIED WOMAN by Robert A. Ross, M.D and Gladys H. Grooves
7. THE TECHNIQUE IN MARRIED by Isabel Hutton
Do have a wonderful time with all of this put together for a better life at home with your wife or husband.
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